How to be the Best Best Man EVER!

Being asked to be the best man is quite a big deal and with that honor comes quite a bit of responsibility.  It is not just about bachelor parties and drinking and that is why the best men in the world have to pay attention. 

There is actually a website strictly dedicated to the men in weddings - grooms and attendants can find useful information here:

 

Tips for the speech.

There's pressure right from the start especially with the speech.  You have to do it right and not mess up their big day, but it's not as hard as it looks. Writing a great toast requires a little creativity, a little patience, some hard work, and some ingenuity.  Along with the pressure of the big speech a best man must take care of the following according to wednet.com:

• To see that the groom makes it successfully to the alter
• To assist in any or unforeseen reception problems
• To ensure that the groom maintains enough to not make a fool of himself
• To ensure that HE maintains enough to not make a fool of himself

• Arrange for the bachelors dinner and, or party
• Select a gift for the groom
• Act as a liaison for the groom’s friends and family

Before Leaving to the Wedding Ceremony

• Help the groom dress 
• Insure that the car is packed for the honeymoon
• Travel Tickets, Passport, ID, etc is the couple is leaving right after the wedding.
• Reception Speech
• Hold on to the Money/ Travelers Checks if any are needed for remaining vendor bills.
• Handkerchief
• Any gifts or acknowledgments

Before Walking Down the Aisle and After the Ceremony

• Ensure that the groom uses the restroom
• Groom's -shoes are tied
• Pant's fly is up
• Face and hair are in order
• If vows are written, that they are on him
• Nothing is between his teeth
• Fear and second thoughts are calmed and put to rest
• Wedding ring is with the Best Man
• Groom signs the Marriage license
• Groom has the check for on hand for the clergy fee

During and After the Reception
Best man may be asked to pay the vendors on your behalf and to help ensure that the reception facility or restaurant is left in good order. Whatever arrangements you make, be sure that you review them with your Best Man at least a couple of days before the wedding date.

• Musicians or DJ setup
• Speech to the groom and bride
• Offer the first toast
• Dance with the bride and her attendants

The Best Man’s Panic Kit for the Groom
Here are some helpful items that the Best Man should have with him. If you are super pragmatic, you may want to purchase these items in advance and give to them to your Best Man for all those unforeseen moments to come. Throw them in a zip up bag and have them handy.

• Aspirin, Tylenol
• Antacid
• Hair comb or brush
• Black magic marker
• Small towel or papertowels
• Hair gel or hairspray
• Extra toothbrush and toothpaste
• Deodorant
• Mouthwash

In conclusion, the key is to find a Best Man who will help make your wedding day especially easy and trouble free. Select a friend who is resourceful, energetic, and diplomatic. A friend with those skills can find solutions to problems without offending or creating new ones.